R.I.P. George Carlin

As this is a seduction blog, I tend to avoid straying off topic. However, today, I'll make a special exception.

By now, I'm sure most of you have heard that George Carlin, one of the greatest comics who ever lived passed away from heart failure last night. I first remember discovering Carlin during college when his brilliant, thought-provoking, side-splitting humor helped me through those stressful times. It's hard to pick his best stand-up routine, but the one above is my favorite. The opening line is a classic!

R.I.P. George Carlin. You'll always hold a special place in The Dicknotist's heart.

-The D

The Conversation Cure

Ever approached a girl and had no idea what to say? Sure you have. We all have. Well, there may soon be a DVD product out there that'll solve your problem.

Last weekend, I had the distinct pleasure of attending the taping of DiCarlo DiClassified's latest product, Conversation Cure. The premise is simple: over the course of 16 hours, the instructors slowly turn three timid, ordinary guys into conversational savants. Impossible? Well, anything is possible when you take action and practice what is taught. As for myself, I soaked in plenty of information to sharpen my game.

Naturally, Vin DiCarlo opened the program with basic threading, where a key phrase or term the girl says triggers a memory that you in turn reveal after she's done talking. Those of you who have taken a drills bootcamp will remember this exercise. Let's say you're talking to a girl and she says, "I visited my sister in New York last weekend." You may wonder what to say next. A common mistake guys make is to inundate her with questions. "What was that like?" "What did you do?" "Do you like New York?" etc. Girls have done this to me and I quickly find it annoying.

Instead of this tactic, Vin challenges you to think differently. Let's revisit what she said: "I visited my sister in New York last weekend." What are some key terms in there that may elicit a memory?

1) Sister. You could say, "Yeah, I just spoke to my sister yesterday..."
2) New York. You may say, "Funny you mention New York! I was in Times Square last weekend..."
3) Last weekend. You respond with "yeah, last weekend, I checked out this cool new club in..."

Get the point? Either of the three responses above are fine. You continue the conversation based on what she's telling you, which accomplishes two tasks automatically. First, you have to listen to what she's actually saying to respond properly and naturally. Keeping your mind focused on that task will keep you from conjuring up those insecurities that have dogged you in the past. In addition, you're more likely to remember what she actually said. Second, you'll be more genuinely interested in what she's saying because you'll be connecting her words to your own life experiences. As Brian Pettit once said: pick-up is about learning to like other people.

Ok, that's enough of trhe specifics. For now, here's a quick preview of the rest of the seminar.

Next up was Rewok, one of the newer trainers who took us through the ins and outs of great storytelling that captivates her. Following him is Heartwork who covered advanced threading, which takes what Vin taught earlier on a much deeper level.

The highlight of the program, however, was a surprise visit from IN10SE. Yes, that IN10SE! The same man who was featured in The Game and one of the originators of the Octoberman Sequence made his first appearance on a seduction product ever! I'm not sure how Vin pulled this one off, but I am ecstatic that he did! He discussed the three levels of conversation and demonstrated specifically how he gets a girl into deep rapport and evokes the right emotions to propel the interaction forward. Among his demonstrations are the well-known strawberry fields and the Cube routines. Yes, I'm no fan of routines, but watching him in action made me allowed me to understand the principles at work at a deeper level. In contrast, when it's written in an e-book or forum, all you see are the words with no context. The highlight, however, was his demonstration of the Octoberman Sequence, which was particularly interesting as it involved a woman's dress strap sliding off... Oh yes! There were women there too.

Finally, we have Julian Foxx who took the program on a strange but hilarious detour. He discussed what to say if you get caught cheating. I won't dare reveal the surprise here. Just know that with all the hilarity, I can't wait to get my complementary copy of this product to watch his presentation again and again, preferably while drunk. His part of the program was the most entertaining, but I disliked the premise. Cheating? Why cheat at all? If you can't be faithful to a woman, don't promise that you will be. If you're not a man of your word, how are you a man at all?

I'm not sure how the final product will look. I imagine it'll be reduced to perhaps 12 hours on 6 DVDs. Either way, it was worth it just to be in the audience and I'm sure the DVD set will be worth it to all of you as well.

-The D

Scientists Everywhere Want to Know...

Why do bad boys get all the girls?

New Scientist has an article this month on bad boys, nice guys, and sex. Given those two extremes, it's no surprise that they found that bad boys get way more sex than their chodely peers. Why? As I've written before, badboys are only doing so well with the ladies because they project their sexual interest and have no competition. Nice guys fail not because they’re nice, but because they’re asexual. When will sex-starved scientists wise up? Perhaps when women find goggles as sexy as handcuffs...

The original article is below and makes for an interesting read:

NICE guys knew it, now two studies have confirmed it: bad boys get the most girls. The finding may help explain why a nasty suite of antisocial personality traits known as the "dark triad" persists in the human population, despite their potentially grave cultural costs.

The traits are the self-obsession of narcissism; the impulsive, thrill-seeking and callous behaviour of psychopaths; and the deceitful and exploitative nature of Machiavellianism. At their extreme, these traits would be highly detrimental for life in traditional human societies. People with these personalities risk being shunned by others and shut out of relationships, leaving them without a mate, hungry and vulnerable to predators.

But being just slightly evil could have an upside: a prolific sex life, says Peter Jonason at New Mexico State University in Las Cruces. "We have some evidence that the three traits are really the same thing and may represent a successful evolutionary strategy."

Jonason and his colleagues subjected 200 college students to personality tests designed to rank them for each of the dark triad traits. They also asked about their attitudes to sexual relationships and about their sex lives, including how many partners they'd had and whether they were seeking brief affairs.

The study found that those who scored higher on the dark triad personality traits tended to have more partners and more desire for short-term relationships, Jonason reported at the Human Behavior and Evolution Society meeting in Kyoto, Japan, earlier this month. But the correlation only held in males.

James Bond epitomises this set of traits, Jonason says. "He's clearly disagreeable, very extroverted and likes trying new things - killing people, new women." Just as Bond seduces woman after woman, people with dark triad traits may be more successful with a quantity-style or shotgun approach to reproduction, even if they don't stick around for parenting. "The strategy seems to have worked. We still have these traits," Jonason says.

This observation seems to hold across cultures. David Schmitt of Bradley University in Peoria, Illinois, presented preliminary results at the same meeting from a survey of more than 35,000 people in 57 countries. He found a similar link between the dark triad and reproductive success in men. "It is universal across cultures for high dark triad scorers to be more active in short-term mating," Schmitt says. "They are more likely to try and poach other people's partners for a brief affair."

Barbara Oakley of Oakland University in Rochester, Michigan, says that the studies "verify something a lot of people have conjectured about".

Christopher von Rueden of the University of California at Santa Barbara says that the studies are important because they confirm that personality variation has direct fitness consequences.

"They still have to explain why it hasn't spread to everyone," says Matthew Keller of the University of Colorado in Boulder. "There must be some cost of the traits." One possibility, both Keller and Jonason suggest, is that the strategy is most successful when dark triad personalities are rare. Otherwise, others would become more wary and guarded.

The Secret of Happiness

The AMP Boston Red Pill Weekend has come and gone. Bringing everyone together was a Herculean effort that spanned the States. Continual contact with AMP organizers in San Francisco, members of the Lairs of Boston, Rhode Island, and New York, and readers of this blog all contributed to a resounding success. Participants came as close as Boston itself to as far away as Barcelona! Other previous AMP grads also joined me in keeping things running smoothly as two guys drove several hours just to help out. I was most impressed with the courage of the participants. They truly made themselves vulnerable and worked hard to break down all the barriers separating them from their own greatness. To work with such men was a unique and unforgettable privilege.

Can one man change the world? No. You can never do it alone. Can a team of people change the world? Damn right! That's the only thing that ever does. Indeed, we're just getting started. The next step includes building a community in Boston with people who support each other in living in authenticity. June 8, 2008 marks the birth of AMP Boston and I truly have goosebumps.

Every time I work with The Authentic Man Program, I reach a new stage of awareness and enlightenment that fundamentally changes how I view and interact with the world. The Monday after the event, I sat down and was reminiscing over all the powerful moments of the weekend when I had a new epiphany. Perhaps I may be the next Aristotle as I have figured out the secret of happiness! Normally, I'd charge thousands of dollars for such a feat, but since I want to see more happy people in this world, I'm going to tell you for free. Ready?

The secret of happiness is discomfort. When I think of it, the people, things, and events in life that make me the most happy also make me the most uncomfortable. The same three year program that will result in a job and career that excites me to wake up in the morning also pushed my mental sanity with an almost inhumane workload I had to endure and missed opportunities because of reduced time. The same women who have frustrated, angered, and hurt me have also provided me with incredibly pleasurable experiences I will remember until the day of my death - and I'm not just talking about sex.

I wonder if unhappiness truly exists. Are people really unhappy or are they merely too comfortable? Ever notice how unhappy people tend to sit around complaining about their situation rather than taking action to improve their lives? I find it interesting how the most unhappy period of my life was roughly between 2004 and 2006, when I had few friends, no women in my life outside of my family, and absolutely no social life. I look at my life now and I'm happier today than I've been at any other time in my life. What changed? I took action. I discovered the Boston Lair and made friends with its members. I started approaching and dating women. I took bootcamps that enhanced my social skills and overall self-confidence. Currently, I'm creating a community of people who will support each other in developing and nurturing confidence. No one else can make you happy. Only you can do it and the only way to do it is to find the courage to make yourself uncomfortable.

Nowadays, I don't complain much. I take action. Yesterday, while I was putting my air conditioner back in my window to fight off scorching Boston temperatures, the unit slipped and I found myself holding onto it by the chord. Somehow, I pulled it back up through my window without pulling my back, but the damage was done. The unit was damaged beyond repair. Did I get angry? Sure! I gave it a swift kick and tossed it out the window for good measure. Yeah, sometimes, it feels good to be a gangsta! ;) Yet, I just hopped in my car and bought a similar unit which was smaller but just a powerful, more energy efficient, and actually shockingly cheap. Oh, and I also bantered with this cute blonde who was buying two air conditioners: one for her and one for mommy. Boy did I have fun ripping into her for that one!

If you're comfortable, life is too short to be so miserable. Take action. Go out and make yourself uncomfortable so that you can share that happiness with the women of the world.

-The D

The Two Night Stand

The moment is here! The time is now! The Authentic Man Program invades Boston this week-end!

A one night stand is often understood to mean a brief, sexual encounter with someone where there is no expectation of seeing or interacting with them again. Well, The Red Pill week-end is two full days, making it a two night stand. This is a one shot deal...a gift from me to the men of Boston and beyond as I wanted to make AMP as accessible as possible. Six months of work have culminated into this momentous occasion.

June is a huge month for me and depending on how things go down, that'll mean either more posts than usual or less. First off, I finish off my remaining summer classes and say goodbye to school for several years, until I decide to return for a PhD or some other income-boosting degree. Second, I'm back to working full-time, which means more money to burn...wisely. First, I'm hiring a personal trainer to guide me as I build the body of an Adonis. Second, I'll be having extensive training with instructors of DiCarlo DiClassified on stuff I can't disclose yet, but will propel my game to new heights.

I am also on the hunt again as I swore off my chaotic, messed up and now ex girlfriend. Well, she's sort of an ex. We still fuck but...it's complicated. :) Women are always wonderful the first two months, but eventually, their warts start showing and you have to run for the hills...preferably to the women of The Hills. You just can't live with 'em and you can't fuck without 'em. Either way, you've gotta love 'em.

So, what's next for The Dicknotist? Greater game. A greater body. A greater man. Boy am I looking forward to this month.

-The D