Inner Game IS the Game!

Who are you trying to be today?

Read on and see if some or all of the following has you chuckling to yourself because it sounds familiar...too familiar. So, you've been reading masf for months, even years. You've opened hundreds or even thousands of sets. You've downloaded and purchased thousands of dollars worth of audio and video programs from "dating gurus." You may have even spent thousands of dollars attending several of their bootcamps, only to realize that your game is just as bad or barely better than where you were to begin with.

Conversely, you've done all the above and actually pulled off lays, but they're on low quality, low self-esteem, and perhaps downright ugly women. Sure, their "personality" may be nice, but deep down, you know you could do better.

So, what's the missing link? More programs? More bootcamps? More audio programs and e-books (or rereading some of your old favorites?) The answer is simple; obtaining it can be heart-wrenching.

The missing link is unshakable, unflinching inner game...or in lay man's terms: "confidence." Without confidence, the approach anxiety will always be there. You may be able to get her digits, but you're poor inner game will cause you to sabotage your seductions in ways you don't even realize.

Ever approached a girl and you just didn't know what to say or you ran out of things to say after your opener? Did you really run out of things to say...or did you wonder how she'd judge what you say next? Perhaps you didn't trust you could maintain her attraction and subconsciously gave up. Perhaps you were so overwhelmed with anxiety, you actually forgot to breathe. Pick your poison. Poor inner game manifests itself in different ways in different areas of our lives, often outside our own awareness. How? Keep reading my blog as we deconstruct your sticking points. For now, let's illustrate the point with an analogy.

You've probably seen the Fed Ex logo before, but have you really seen it? Take a look in the white space between the letters. There's a hidden symbol there that most people never see. Still can't see it? I'll give you a hint: look between the "E" and the "X."

Practicing pickup without strong inner game is the same experience. You'll run routines and behave in ways described by your favorite guru, but your insecurities will creep up in ways you don't even realize and sabotage your seductions. While routines can be helpful role modeling for total newbies, they ultimately achieve only limited success, if at all. They are just mimicking the guru's external behaviors without exploring and internalizing the mindset that shifted his perspectives in a manner where his actions arose naturally.

Inner game IS the game. Once you develop that and it is unshakable, your outer game will naturally spring out. This blog isn't the place for new techniques, but to gain the tools to navigate through your insecurities and unlock your greatest potential. Everything you need to get the girl of your dreams is already inside of you; now is the time to unleash that power!