Confidence in a Bottle?

Well, we can enter this latest news story as exhibit B of why scientists make poor pick-up artists. Apparently, they have created a nasal spray that can cure shyness.

How? Ever notice how right after sex, you're more talkative, open, and genuinely calm? Well, particularly for women, that's because of Oxytocin. Essentially, oxytocin is the chemical released in women's bodies after orgasm and also while breast feeding that facilitates their getting attached to the guy or child respectively. It is also produced in both genders when people fall in love and also when pregnant women go into labor.

The main feature of this "cuddle chemical" is that it induces a sense of calm and consequently, is being developed as yet another drug for social anxiety - in nasal form no less! As if Ativan, Klonopin, or good 'ol alcohol weren't enough.

As a long sufferer of approach anxiety, I have tremendous sympathy for guys who are still struggling. In fact, one of the reasons I blog so much is to help those very guys. However, the big mistake guys make in the field is using these drugs as a way of faking confidence.

Let's say it works. You approach the woman confidently, make a great impression, and get her number. Then what? Will you pop another Klonopin when the time comes to call? Will you down a bunch of beers on your Day2? Will you pop a Viagra when you finally close her 'cause you're now getting Whiskey dick? When will it end?

The problem with quick fixes is sooner or later, the woman will see through the mask and will feel cheated or even angry. Woman have an ultra-sensitive radar for deception (or "creepiness" as the average woman would say). You're not helping yourself by faking confidence with mind-altering substances. If come to rely on these drugs, the quality of women you end up with will reflect that. It's much scarier, but in the end, you'll be so much better off approaching women stone cold sober.

If you want true help for your approach anxiety, I highly recommend the Authentic Man Program Course.