FR: Don't Be Creepy

Oh, last night was a fun time! My usual wing couldn't come out and instead of calling for reserves, I actually went out alone. I used to do this ages ago to build my inner game. Going out alone forces you to either approach people and have a good time...or stand in the corner crying in your beer. Of course, I wasn't truly "alone," as I greeted the bar staff who I've gotten to know over the past few months.

I waltz over to the bar looking to try something new when I notice this sweet two set seated to my left. Instant opener: "Hey, what are you drinking?" She said something that sounded like "Smitz" and highly recommended it. Of course, I went ahead and ordered myself a round and actually, it wasn't too bad!

Because of the seating, we all sat on stools where it was HBTravel, HBBoston, and then me, which is not preferred as I usually like to be in the middle. For now, I just projected and had no problem kinoing them both. I kept the conversation light and was more interested in HBTravel as she was visiting HBBoston and from my experience, girls on vacation are more open to same night pulls.

All of a sudden, this short chode rolls in and before he even opened his mouth, I immediately told myself, "Oh, that dumbass already fucked up!" Now, he's standing behind the girls, but inbetween them and I couldn't hear what he was saying, but within 20 seconds, HBBoston turns to me and says, "this is soooo weird!" Then, the chode's taller friend barrels in and pretends that he knows me. Clearly, these guys have studied pickup and are using some tactic they probably read on a forum somewhere. I basically ignored them and kept talking to the girls as if the guys were vapor. Then I got an idea and thought it'd be fun to toy with these guys a bit.

I get up from my stool and go to the short chode, who is sitting on a stool behind the girls. I motion for him to “excuse me” for a second and he gets up and I just take his stool…and the girls happily make room for me so I’m sitting between them. I chat with my target some more and we’re having a good time making fun of the chodes as they stood behind us. Fun times. After about two minutes, I just bounced my girls downstairs and got them away from these guys.

So, why did these guys fail? They came in with their own agenda without any regard for the women. All they cared about was accomplishing their objective. Some of you have heard of the idea of not being "outcome dependent" or "reaction-seeking." These concepts are basically cousins of the same idea: don't roll in with an agenda. Train yourself to approach and to recognize opportunities for escalation. When you roll in with this grand scheme, your mind is not in the moment but the future. While you're thinking of how to go from step A to B to sex, you're not even noticing the effect you're having on other people. Those guys truly creeped out those girls and continued plowing even as the girls and I had a blast making fun of them. How clueless can you be?

Something else happens when you drop your agenda: approaching becomes much easier. With no outcome in mind, you can focus on the women instead of worrying what may happen and which tactic you'd use to overcome it. When you master this skill, things will naturally progress in your favor.