Pick-Up Advice from 50 Cent & A Special Announcement

I'm sure some of you are wondering what a 50 Cent video is doing on a seduction blog. I've always believed that the best pickup advice comes not from women but from men who are already widely successful with women. The exception, of course, are the women of the Authentic Man Program, but they are a special breed.

Enter 50 Cent. Brash. Cocky. Talented. Sagacious. If anyone exudes the "badboy" persona, it's him. Perhaps you dislike rap music. You don't care for its misogynistic messages, foul language, drug references, murder chronicles, or you're just not a fan. That's fine. However, you can all learn from successful people, especially stars you may not like.

50 Cent, a.k.a. Curtis Jackson, has excelled in a cutthroat business where most pathetically fail. As a reward for his success, he has his pick of women, the adoration of millions, and more money than his baby's momma could ever hope to extract. He is a true pick-up guru: he picked up the planet back in 2003 and hasn't dropped it since. What makes him different? What makes him tick? What can we learn from him?

A recent interview with Askmen.com offers us a glimpse into his mindset. In particular, "Fitty" shares with us some pick-up advice:

Q-12: You’re known for being exceptionally popular with the ladies. Do you have any tips to share with our readers?

Just be confident. I think confidence is the most attractive part of a person. Because, I mean, if they’re not confident enough to show you who they are, you don’t even know who they are. You can’t meet ‘em, so I mean…

Another thing, try again -- especially when you’re at the introduction phase. You meet someone, you ask them out or whatever it is, if she says no, you see her another day, you ask her again.

You gotta be persistent, because I mean today, somebody might be doing the right thing, she could have a boyfriend, or somebody she thinks is promising, and then, it feels good, so she’s telling you no today. Then tomorrow, she’s not sure about him no more. And you ask again, and it’s like, “OK, yeah, we can go out.”

I wish I entered the game with a deeper understanding and awareness of the wisdom uttered in the above quote. Regular readers of this blog know how hiding behind routines and patterns will get you modest and pretty mediocre results. However, Fitty mentions a key aspect of pickup that is not emphasized enough: playful persistence. If I had a quarter for every time I gave up when a woman did not respond in a way I expected her to, I'd buy a mansion and move next door to Justin Timberlake (Scarlett Johansson "racks" my world!). Ironically, the very act of expecting anything was the reason for many of those rejections that reinforced my most destructive of my limiting beliefs.

Learn from 50: If you get a number or text and don't get an immediate response, keep calling and texting. Get creative. So many guys complain that their follow-up game is so poor yet fail to realize that every time they get a woman's digits is a new opportunity to practice and improve. They squander that opportunity by calling or texting once and giving up when she doesn't call back.

More importantly, another lesson that can be learned from Fitty's success is the importance of diversification. Most of you know that he's a famous rapper. Did you also know that he's a film star, entrepreneur, and record producer? Aside from creating G-Unit Records, he has a clothing and shoe line, a brand of Vitamin Water, a book series on inner city life including a best selling autobiography, and is even coming out with a condom line (Magic Stick condoms). What's the lesson to be learned here? He never allows his success to hinge on only one project. Even if his new rap cd flops, he'll still make plenty of money off his other projects.

Coming off the heals of this lesson, I have decided to leave the seduction community. No, I will abandon neither the game nor this blog. Rather, I am no longer going to immerse a great deal of my life into the pickup subculture. Relying predominantly on cold approaches to meet and seduce women is a tiring, ultimately unfulfilling process. Keeping your life balanced with plenty of hobbies prevents burnout, which is what I have been battling the past month or so.

There was a time that I actually had hobbies outside of seducing women. I was once into politics, Salsa dancing, going to the movies and comedy clubs, and wanted to learn Spanish and how to cook. Lately, as I look around, all I do is study for classes, head to work, study pickup, and do cold approaches. What happened to my social life?!

Time to take my life back! The other day, to symbolically and literally divorce myself from my old obsession, I grabbed my trash can and threw away all of my pickup CDs and DVDs. To my surprise, I realized that three years of stockpiling pickup products has resulted in a staggering collection of over 70 discs and thousands of unread ebooks. Even more amazing is that I've listened to each of the audio programs at least twice! It's amazing how I can take forever to read an ebook but can whip through audio and video programs like cool whip. I actually thought of giving some of that material away, but there's nothing I had that isn't readily available for illegal downloading anyway.

Since then, I've been immersing myself in new hobbies, including some of the old ones listed above with a special emphasis of bringing more female friends into my social circle. These friendships will include certain "benefits," of course. Like I said, I'm still very much in the game. I still enjoy hanging with my friends at bars and working the ladies, but developing solid social circle game will keep things fresh.

No more products. No more podcasts. No more pickup forums. There comes a certain point where the community goes from being a source of support to a crutch you can't live without. Don't make that mistake. Get what you can from the community, support each other, and push yourself to unearth those qualities that make you unique and wonderful - qualities you had all along, but were afraid to showcase. When you gain the confidence to approach women without fear, use that same courage to leave the community when the time is right. For me, it's time.

So, what does the future hold for me, particularly since it's September and Boston is about to be flooded with fresh college meat? Stay tuned. Like I said, I'll still be blogging...and I'll still be dicknotizing.