Overall, I enjoyed the film, A Beautiful Mind, but there was always one scene that got under my skin. As you can see in the above video, John Nash as played by Russel Crowe applies mathematical principles to pick-up. We've all seen this scenario before: there's an attractive woman (a hot blonde in this case) surrounded by a bunch of her less attractive friends. In the scene, while the guys scheme on how to win the hot blonde over, Nash has his "a ha" moment, arguing that approaching the blonde guarantees failure. They'll all sabotage (AMOG) each other as they each fight to take her home. If they approach her friends, they'll still go home alone as no one likes to be 2nd choice. He then reasons that the best solution is to ignore the blonde completely and go straight for her friends. His theory makes sense, which is precisely why it's dead wrong. There's no logic to women.
Many guys, unless they're drunk, take Nash's approach and settle for who they can get rather than go after who they really want. That results in very few guys going for the hot women and the majority of guys going for middle and low-tier women. Yet those 20% of guys who go after the hot women actually end up fucking 80% of all women whereas the guys who settle fight over the middle and low-tier women. Why is that? Human nature.
Once in a while, researchers come out with a study that's not only useful, but jives with my real-world experience.
In a study of speed daters, Paul W. Eastwick and Eli J. Finkel, PhD, of Northwestern University, found that people who selected a large number of candidates for follow-up meetings were less likely to be picked themselves for another round. People who chose only a few contenders were more successful in getting attention and responses. It turns out that singles who show interest in every partner they encounter may come off not as eager and open but as just plain desperate.
"What's interesting about that is it actually differs from platonic liking," says Finkel. "In nonromantic contexts, if I like everybody, then everybody likes me back. After all, who doesn't like the guy who likes everybody? But in a romantic context, if I say, 'Yeah, she's hot! And she's hot…and she's hot…and that other girl over there is hot, too,' there's now hard statistical evidence that, in general, the women I meet will not find me sexually desirable."
Does this mean that grandmothers who've warned single women not to be too picky have been wrong? "I don't think your grandma meant, 'You have to go on dates with everybody under every circumstance,'" says Finkel. "But in a situation in which there are a bunch of eligible men, like a party, be selective." Finkel warns against interpreting this data as an invitation to sit home or play hard to get: "What you want to do is be easy for one person to get and hard for everyone else, which will increase the likelihood of that one person's liking you."
Chicks dig guys with high standards because that attitude communicates high status. If you're willing to settle in your love life, you're probably willing to settle in all areas of your life and that, my friends, is not attractive. What girl wants to brag to her girlfriends that she scored the desperate guy?! The moral of the story: go for the girl(s) you want and you'll probably end up attracting the others anyway.
-The Dicknotist
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