Double Lay Report

It’s never felt so good to feel so sore. Can I discuss my recent LRs and answer one of your questions? Let’s see…

Dicknotist,

I really enjoy your blog. It is a solid resource consolidating a ton of great knowledge regarding natural game. I have been drawn to the natural style and have enjoyed reading your historical posts and seeing significant progression; obviously you are applying learned knowledge correctly.

I have been a student of seduction for about a year, but haven’t gotten into it nearly as much as others. I kinda graze and pick up ideas here and there, never wholly shifting my paradigm to apply the techniques of MM / RSD / etc. It feels unauthentic. I am very social, have a ton a friends, a decent amount of girl*friends*, and I am an overall attractive guy. I think I am just missing opportunities without realizing it, or show my cards too quickly to girls I am significantly interested in. I have no approach anxiety and getting numbers isn’t too hard. So the social part isn’t my problem, it is how I am applying my social skills.

I am a fan of Vin DiCarlo’s teachings and have tried to implement them with moderate success. I read your first review of his bootcamp from last year and, in retrospect, was it worth it? It seems like a lot of the knowledge his team teaches is soft, and is difficult to apply without having someone there to literally show you. Could you have gotten to the level where you are now as quickly if you just tried to work on yourself, by yourself? Is worth it 3 months, 6 months, a year later? Or is it more short term success?

I appreciate any deeper insight you can give. Awesome blog, and I appreciate it.

Thanks,

Dan

Dan,

If you’ve been reading my site, you can guess my answer: assert the cock! It’s virtually impossible to have a huge social circle and not have at least some of your female friends wanting to fuck you. You are likely suppressing your sexual edge. I’ve discussed this concept before and won’t rehash it here, but rather, I’ll illustrate what I mean with my back-to-back lays from last week-end.

The first lay is from last Friday, when I closed a girl on the second date. Yes, I know. I haven’t gone past the first date mark in quite some time, but I got LMR for the first time in 15 months. On the first date, I did the usual: spent about an hour at a swanky lounge getting to know her while implementing kino escalation and sexual eye contact to get her aroused. I also brought along a random movie I grabbed out of my DVD collection and had her drive us back to her place. As I entered her sweet apartment, my dick is further aroused by the sight of her drunk roommates. I lounge on the couch and enjoy some appetizers from the kitchen, when she grabs the DVD player in the living room and takes it to her bedroom. Sweet. I love it when the girl helps me out.

I did the typical escalation from the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder, but she stops me as the panties are about to come off, explaining that she’s sexually inexperienced and has “never fallen this hard for a guy before.” Flattering, but I prefer to express my gratitude with a vaginal donation. Bummer. I remember on my drive home thinking to myself, “how in the world did I not get laid tonight…in that scenario…in that situation?! Why didn’t I fuck one of her roommates?”

On the Day3, I meet her at her place where she cooks me an incredible dinner. I never knew I’d get horny from the mere taste of chicken, but she’s talented! Again, we go to her room and lay on her bed, but I try a different strategy. We talk and I have her open up about her life, her sexual insecurities, and a host of other topics I don’t remember. I usually do this post-sex, but some girls need a little bit more trust before they will act on their sexual desires. We makeout and I escalate again, though more slowly and lovingly, and while the panties come off, but she doesn’t want me to stick it in. That’s what I get for wasting my time with “comfort game.”

I decide to be more direct and ask her what she is afraid will happen if we sleep together. She gives an odd response: she’s heard endless stories of her friends being played and abused by guys and she’s afraid I’ll be like one of them. In other words, she’s concerned that I’d just fuck her that night and never call her again. Then I do something I couldn’t have done even three weeks ago. I know that trying to convince her that I’m not like that will only reinforce her fear and getting on the defensive will only hurt me. I don’t remember my exact words and I certainly use a great deal of finesse and sensitive phrasing, but I essentially say that if we have sex, I might not call or ever speak to her again. However, if she continues to hold back not because she doesn’t want me but out of sheer fear, then it’s guaranteed that I’ll never call or talk to her again. Oh, it’s a gusty move, but I’m serious and I own my conviction. When you challenge people to face their fear and do what makes them happy, they will often live up to your expectations to please you (especially women). A while later, I escalate again and the LMR is gone. She was soooo wet. God damn! Where’s a towel when you need one?!

The second LR was the next night when I hit the bars with my usual wing. The key to this lay was just capitalizing on windows of opportunity. I wasn’t intending to do anything. I wanted to find a spot to sit and reminisce of the previous night’s adventures. Unfortunately, all the tables were taken, but one girl got up to use the restroom and I sat on her seat to rest my legs. I chatted up the other woman at the table just to be social. The chick at the table then introduced me to her friend with no provocation and I decided to do some light gaming for shits and giggles (and to keep her chair). I spent most of the time chatting with my wing and ignoring them when out of the blue, I notice that they keep looking at me. Oh, yes, I was got the same night pull vibe. I ramp up the kino escalation and deflect all her interview questions. After a while, I pull her in and tell her friend that I needed to chat with her for a few minutes. The friend says something that really stuck out: “Oh that’s cool. Take all the time in the world.” Hmmm…practically handing the friend over and not cock blocking me at all? My Dicknotism sense tells me my target is looking for cock and her friend is helping her along. God bless America! When she starts grinding into my crotch over Britney Spears’ “Gimmie More,” I knew it was time to get out of there. I talked up a new movie I bought. Technically, I didn’t buy it. The girl I fucked the night before bought it for me. Oh, the irony! So, I invite her to my place to watch and she readily agrees. She says good-bye to her friend who leaves in her own car and we go out and hail a cab. Of course, I ramp up compliance all the way to the lay and let her pay the cab fare. We make it to my place, put the movie in, turn to her, and put my dick in.

So, Dan, I ask you: how were these lays possible? I lead. I lead with certainty and with my cock. At no time did I waver from my intense desire to give them incredible sexual pleasure. I asserted my sexual side comfortably and confidently. When a girl is into a guy and he believes in himself with conviction, she will capitulate. There is something about a man who owns his desires that is undeniable and trustable. If you challenge her to be her best, she will do everything in her power to surrender herself to you. In the second lay, when you have a general sexual state, other horny chicks will pick up on it and become horny themselves. Again, if you own it, she (and even her friends) will surrender.

As for Vin DiCarlo, I credit him for taking my game to unforeseen heights. Yes, his bootcamp is worth every penny and so is Dating Diablo and Sexual Selection Switch. With those three products, you truly don’t need anything else. I still review his stuff on a monthly basis and always find myself learning something new or in a deeper way.

I disagree that his teachings are “soft” and “difficult to apply.” So many little things he teaches have transformed my game, such as not kissing a girl till you’re in isolation and when you do, taking it all the way to sex. That concept along with compliance led me through a 15 month streak of no LMR. Do you know how freeing it is to focus on sex rather than the “first kiss” when you’re on a date? Sexual tension is so much easier and things progress much quicker. You don’t need to worry about whether or not she’s ready to be kissed. If she allows you into her bedroom, she’s damn ready to be kissed (and much more)! That’s what separates Vin DiCarlo from the competition. Other gurus will dream up with techniques to overcome common obstacles; Vin teaches you a new mindset that prevents those obstacles from coming in the first place.

Now, your last question: could I have gotten to the level where I am now as quickly if I just worked on myself, by myself? I honestly don’t think so. Before the community, I was a nerdy chode who couldn’t pick up a girl to save my life. After I got introduced to the community, I was a weird chode who got laid once in a blue moon, but learned all these dysfunctional behaviors that kept me from hanging onto any of the women I seduced. Then, there was Vin’s bootcamp, which gave me the tools to become a real pickup artist.

I took DiClassified Drills almost a year ago. I can easily say that I’m even more happy today that I took his bootcamp because the payoff just keeps “cumming.” (Pun intended). So many gurus out there promise the world, but Vin delivers. Of course, I also have to credit AMP on teaching me how to connect with women rapidly and on a deep emotional level. Without AMP, my love life would consist of a string of endless hook-ups, which is exciting at first, but unfulfilling in the long run. Despite the ridiculous amount of money I spent in 2007, I have no regrets.

-The Dicknotist