Dr. Phil Talks Seduction

"Women Beware!
Women beware: Men are on the prowl! Some guys win your heart and dupe you for thousands of dollars, while other men learn the slick techniques of pick-up artists so they can get you in the sack! Go inside a classroom where single men are being taught The Mystery Method -- a step-by-step technique on how to meet, attract and date beautiful women. The founders say their method teaches guys to be more confident. When the students hit the bars, will The Mystery Method help them land a lady? What do the women think of their techniques? Then, meet Ross Jeffries, the self-proclaimed "Father of Seduction." He says he’s taught thousands of men to seduce women through language. Now he fears that he’s created monsters, because many of his followers are seducing woman through deception, and he says that’s exactly what The Mystery Method is all about. A heated debate ensues between Ross and the creators of The Mystery Method, Nick and Scott. Is Ross’ technique actually as benign as he claims? And, Victoria says she fell in love for the first time with a guy whom who she thought was the perfect man, until he she says he ended up scamming her out of $100,000. Did Victoria miss the warning signs? How can she pick up the pieces of her broken heart and move on? If you’re a lady looking for love but don't want to find heartache, you won’t want to miss this show!"

Yes, you read the above description correctly. Dr. Phil finally convinced some bigwigs of the PUA community to come on his show and bear the wrath of his mostly female audience. Seeing the title of the show, "Women Beware," I tuned in to see yet another hit piece of the seduction community by the mainstream media. However, I was pleasantly surprised.

Dr. Phil portrayed the seduction community in the positive light I've ever seen. He was fair and empathetic with the plight of men who just want to learning to be more successful with women. Despite having Nick and Scott of The Mystery Method (MM) on the show, the community for once didn't seem creepy.

The show featured a few clips of MM students approaching these hot blondes in a bar many of them doing quite well. They even invited those very blondes onto the show, one of which said she "might go for him," even though she is clearly into him in the clip as she strokes her hair several times.

Even the blondes were empathetic and supportive. “Their idea is a very good one. Men need to go to school to learn how to approach women.” Another remarked that she has never been opened in the manner the MM used and she welcomed the change.

Not to be outdone, after Dr. Phil polls the audience on their opinion on learning seduction and a good 50% of the audience had a problem with it, he further came to our defense. She asked the women on stage and in the audience if someone had taught them how to put on makeup, choose clothes, and conduct themselves as a lady. “Somebody invented the pushup bra for a reason!”

If only the show ended there. By the end of the episode, PUAs once again looked like creeps because the biggest creep of all was given way too much air time.

Our own Ross Jeffries, the same ugly, bitter, nerd who started the community twenty years ago, came back to destroy his competitors and gain some publicity for himself. Every time Dr. Phil called Jeffries the "father of the seduction community," I cringed. The man wore this ugly brown suit, had dark brown hair, and an unshaven, thin gray beard. He's always been ugly, but he's never looked worse. I have never been happier not to own an HD TV. You think that going on television before a national audience would convince a guy to present himself better.

Things got worse once he opened his mouth. Jeffries spent the whole time twisting and misrepresenting the nature of what MM teaches. Granted, I am far from a fan of MM, but their techniques are solid and the hot blondes on the show agreed. My problem with them is that their techniques seek to cover up the symptoms rather than fix the underlying, fundamental problem. However, from how Jeffries represented them, you'd think MM were teaching men how to become professional wife batterers.

Meanwhile, Dr. Phil is reading some of Jeffries' marketing lines over the years and keeps bleeping out the word, "laid." Since when was "laid" not allowed to be said on television? Of course, we all know that when we don't know something, we assume the worst. The TV audience probably thought Jeffries was saying "fuck" or "pussy" or who knows what. What a betrayal? He does a 180 right in the middle of the show and tries his best to demonize PUAs. Seeing Dr. Phil on one side of the stage and Jeffries on the other, I can almost see the slime oozing out of my television set.

Eventually Ross left, but show only got worse from there. Incredibly, they presented this moronic woman who gave $100,000 to this guy she was seeing, even though she caught him in a series of lies beforehand. Not surprisingly, he turned out to be a con artist who does this to other women on a regular basis. Never once did anyone notice how ugly and frumpy she was, in sharp contrast to that sweet looking blonde that was previously on stage. I wanted Dr. Phil to say, "My Dear...you're just too damn ugly to ever get taken in by a PUA. This was the work of a chode!" Oh well. The damage had been done. At the end of the show, Dr. Phil polled the audience again and most of them had a negative view of the community.

Of course, the segment made no mention of natural game. Rather they presented the community as it was back in 2001, where it was a battle of between NLP and indirect game. Both of these aging styles getting as old as David D's Double Your Dating e-book.

I have a theory why so many people distrust and dislike the community so much.

1) Women want to have their wild fun in their 20s, but they have to make sure that the lovable losers they shat all over previously are around when they hit their 30s and want to settle down. They depend on them for their dream wedding and starting a family just like they dreamed as little girls. As Chris Rock said, a man is only as faithful as his options.

2) Women crave authenticity, even if they're far from honest themselves. They equate learning to be successful with women to learning to deceive women to obtain sex and then more on. There are a lot of jaded women out there who think the worst of men and they project their baggage onto the community.

3) A lot of men are jealous of other men's success. They have too low a self-esteem to obtain what they really want and they knock on others. Misery loves company.

Keep that in mind if someone disses you on your journey; that only means you're on the right path.

-The D