It's not too often that a blog post can have enduring influence on my game. The writings in Khiem's Kiss N'Tale are often thought-provoking and unique. Of all his posts, one in particular has always resonated with me. From "The Fallacy of Wanting More" comes this gem of a paragraph:
Don’t be afraid to go to the next level. I see so many Pick-Up Artists working so hard at staying in the position to “have the choice in women.” After suffering so many years of not having any options, they are now constantly looking for new, better, hotter women. It’s like they collect them. They always need “one more.” I know… having someone new is fun. It’s like having a new toy every day. If that’s what you enjoy and want, keep playing the field. I respect that decision and you should stop reading now.
But if you are done sowing your royal oats, if you have now decided to find yourself a “real” girlfriend/wife or if you are not finding fulfillment in meeting more women, then ask yourself: what’s the point of having a choice in women if you don’t exercise that choice? How long are you wanting to stay unattached for? Do you want to be that creepy 65 year old man who’s still chasing after 3-4 women?
There's a great deal of insight in the above quote and it raises some deeper questions. Indeed, what is the point of having a choice if you never actually choose? I got into this game to have more options with women, yet it's very easy to get so caught up in the chase that I forgot that my goal was achieved long ago. That's why it's important to be crystal clear in what you want. Otherwise, even if you succeed, you won't realize it and you'll remain dissatisfied and unhappy.
I exercised my choice last night when I dropped one of my girlfriends. Actually, given my limited time, I only have two and removing her will leave me down to one.
*GASP!* What do I do now?! What if...what if...it doesn't work out? What if things go sour and I want out? What if...I get hurt? What if...I won't be able to get somebody else? Those very worries are why I had to learn game in the first place. What most guys call "getting good with women," I call "overcoming your insecurities."
From my last LR, a double-header, you'll remember that one of women is sexually inexperienced while the other one is a sexual savant. After test-driving each one for a month and a half or so, I see that I'm teaching sex lessons to the former and having seizure-like orgasms with the latter. Given the two scenarios, this professor is done with class and is embarking on a sexual sabbatical...exploring new angles, new scenarios, and new settings. If I spend some of my limited time with a sexually ravenous woman and having awesome sex with her and then, I deflect some of that time to spend it with another woman who's sexually ho hum, who's the fool here?! I felt like Saul on the way to Damascus: it was a moment of incredible clarity and power. So, last night I called her up and with much sensitivity, I dropped her like she's haaaawt!
The lesson: continually reevaluate why you're in this game and what you need to make you happy. For me, awesome sex with a nurturing, caring woman does it for me. Having her cook me a wonderful meal and then ask me for a threesome is a beautiful thing.
So, for now, I have one girlfriend and I'm looking for a girl willing to have a threesome with us. That sounds like an excellent goal for the Spring.
-The D
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