The Conversation Cure

Ever approached a girl and had no idea what to say? Sure you have. We all have. Well, there may soon be a DVD product out there that'll solve your problem.

Last weekend, I had the distinct pleasure of attending the taping of DiCarlo DiClassified's latest product, Conversation Cure. The premise is simple: over the course of 16 hours, the instructors slowly turn three timid, ordinary guys into conversational savants. Impossible? Well, anything is possible when you take action and practice what is taught. As for myself, I soaked in plenty of information to sharpen my game.

Naturally, Vin DiCarlo opened the program with basic threading, where a key phrase or term the girl says triggers a memory that you in turn reveal after she's done talking. Those of you who have taken a drills bootcamp will remember this exercise. Let's say you're talking to a girl and she says, "I visited my sister in New York last weekend." You may wonder what to say next. A common mistake guys make is to inundate her with questions. "What was that like?" "What did you do?" "Do you like New York?" etc. Girls have done this to me and I quickly find it annoying.

Instead of this tactic, Vin challenges you to think differently. Let's revisit what she said: "I visited my sister in New York last weekend." What are some key terms in there that may elicit a memory?

1) Sister. You could say, "Yeah, I just spoke to my sister yesterday..."
2) New York. You may say, "Funny you mention New York! I was in Times Square last weekend..."
3) Last weekend. You respond with "yeah, last weekend, I checked out this cool new club in..."

Get the point? Either of the three responses above are fine. You continue the conversation based on what she's telling you, which accomplishes two tasks automatically. First, you have to listen to what she's actually saying to respond properly and naturally. Keeping your mind focused on that task will keep you from conjuring up those insecurities that have dogged you in the past. In addition, you're more likely to remember what she actually said. Second, you'll be more genuinely interested in what she's saying because you'll be connecting her words to your own life experiences. As Brian Pettit once said: pick-up is about learning to like other people.

Ok, that's enough of trhe specifics. For now, here's a quick preview of the rest of the seminar.

Next up was Rewok, one of the newer trainers who took us through the ins and outs of great storytelling that captivates her. Following him is Heartwork who covered advanced threading, which takes what Vin taught earlier on a much deeper level.

The highlight of the program, however, was a surprise visit from IN10SE. Yes, that IN10SE! The same man who was featured in The Game and one of the originators of the Octoberman Sequence made his first appearance on a seduction product ever! I'm not sure how Vin pulled this one off, but I am ecstatic that he did! He discussed the three levels of conversation and demonstrated specifically how he gets a girl into deep rapport and evokes the right emotions to propel the interaction forward. Among his demonstrations are the well-known strawberry fields and the Cube routines. Yes, I'm no fan of routines, but watching him in action made me allowed me to understand the principles at work at a deeper level. In contrast, when it's written in an e-book or forum, all you see are the words with no context. The highlight, however, was his demonstration of the Octoberman Sequence, which was particularly interesting as it involved a woman's dress strap sliding off... Oh yes! There were women there too.

Finally, we have Julian Foxx who took the program on a strange but hilarious detour. He discussed what to say if you get caught cheating. I won't dare reveal the surprise here. Just know that with all the hilarity, I can't wait to get my complementary copy of this product to watch his presentation again and again, preferably while drunk. His part of the program was the most entertaining, but I disliked the premise. Cheating? Why cheat at all? If you can't be faithful to a woman, don't promise that you will be. If you're not a man of your word, how are you a man at all?

I'm not sure how the final product will look. I imagine it'll be reduced to perhaps 12 hours on 6 DVDs. Either way, it was worth it just to be in the audience and I'm sure the DVD set will be worth it to all of you as well.

-The D