You just have to love success stories. I got the following e-mail from Black Bush:
Hey Dicknotist!
Thanks, for the monkier, LOL. I read and took your advice from my email. I really appreciate it. It's what I've needed to hear. And actually have told before, but ignored. In life, there are times you need to hear things from other people to really believe the truth and logic in it. Anyways, I took your advice and ran with it. As for part 1, I only said "non-committal" words a few times throughout the week. And when I did, I caught myself and said things more definitively. It was much easier than I thought. And I wasn't scared of being wrong. I just went with it. People actually started waiting around to see what I would decide to do next. Those situations when I was indecisive were few and far between. But, when I caught myself and made sure I led in some direction, rather than none at all. For all they knew, people were following George Custer, and were happy being led to the slaughter. Oh well. I felt good.
For your 2nd suggestion. Not being afraid to fuck up. I did that wonderfully, LOL. I just did shit. Not half-assed or hazardly. But not so much thinking what others would say. Yes, I did screw up. But I said to myself, "who cares?" Even laughed at myself a lot of the time. I felt more in control though. Which is great. I did notice a little change, from the way I acted doing both of your suggestions. I was more laid back. And was more of a leader. My body language improved too. I realized that if I do fuck up in front of someone, there is < 1% chance that I will ever see them again in life. So, might as well become a good story for someone else, LOL.
I know you're waiting for lessons learned or whatever. Well, on thursday, I was in the mall in line for chick-fil-a and saw a chance to approach a girl. But failed to pull the trigger. Same thing happend friday, at another mall in claire's before I got my second ear pierced. Both very good looking. And I was getting "IOIs." Just didn't pursue. Do I know why? Yep! Same thing as I might have said in the previous email that I'm emotionally linked to the outcome. So it scared me to approach and get rejected. I know that can be overcome. And I will overcome it and soon. Too many fine women in Atlanta not to. So while I was able to say fuck off to my perfection to an extent. Not so when it actually came to approach chicks I had some interest in. From those two encounters, I would've loved to given you field reports even had they not led to anything other than a decent conversation - but, no dice.
Lastly, I'm saying avoir and adios to SLA. I haven't learned anything. It's a bunch of garbage. Oh well, fun while it lasted. I'll use the money I save to go to the gym and buy some extra food so I can get some muscle like I want to. Ideally, I would say it's not for the girls. But partly yes, because i've always wanted to take off my shirt and see the look on a girl's face when she sees something she's only fantasized about, with six pack and chest. LOL. Oh, and you know how chicks always will try and squeeze on ur arm or touch your chest and stomach on the sly to see what you working with? Yea, I want that? LOL. So, my $85/month SLA money will be better spent at Gold's Gym and Sam's Club working out and buying food. Thanks to you I will have a leader like persona and thanks to Gold's I will have the body to precede.
Oh yea, also I bought Vin DiCarlo's Dating Diablo as well as an ebook from the approach. I like a lot what they have to say about picking up girls. Just being your "improved" self and being natural and genuine. That will fit me best, I know. None of the gimmiks.
So that's it.
Thanks for your help and suggestions last week.
Black Bush,
You make me proud! Good move on getting Dating Diablo. If you can't afford Diclassified Drills, Dating Diablo is the next best thing out there for outer game. I still listen to that program every 2-3 months. The best part about it is it's really short run time of two hours. Most products these days are a 10 hour plus DVD-set. They're so long, you forget half of what you heard and listening to it again requires another huge time commitment. No wonder so many guys don't actually go out. Between playing WarCraft and watching David D., who has the time?
Don't sleep, man, cause I have another mission for ya. Eye contact is the single most important part of the game. Try doing kino without looking at her. Guys who hit the club bumping and grinding on a chick only to see her just walk away know that anything you do without eye contact is a frivolous exercise. The community often teaches to maintain eye contact until she looks away. That's a good rule of thumb, but eye contact is more than focusing on her pupils. Eye contact is about conveying a message: who you are and what you're offering.
Step 1: Steady your gaze. Ever try to look at both of her eyes and get tripped up in trying to focus each of your eye balls on her corresponding eye balls? Some of the more mainstream books teach you to look at her nose; supposedly, she can't tell the difference. If you don't look into her eyes, you cannot communicate through the eyes. Here's a simple solution: just look into one of her eyes. Personally, I find that focusing on her left eye is easiest.
Step 2: Convey your message. While staring into her eyes, allow your mind to fill up with thoughts of you two having the most intense, amazing fuck session of your lives. It's one thing to think about sex (i.e. your fav. porn scene), but it'll be even more powerful if you think about you two in particular getting it on. It's a lot of fun too.
Starting sexual eye contact isn't that hard but maintaining it can be. Keep the sexual eye contact going for much of the interaction, whether it be a first meeting, date, or something else. A good example of this can be found in the pilot episode of Grey's Anatomy. The two main characters meet in a bar and go home together only to learn later that the guy is the woman's new boss. Halfway through that episode, you can see the "Dr. Sheppard" character giving "Meredith" intensely sexual eye contact. Here's an unofficial transcript:
Meredith: "Don't look at me like that!"
Dr. Sheppard: "Look at you like what?"
Meredith: "Like you've seen me naked."
Attraction starts and builds with eye contact. Sexual tension starts and builds with eye contact. Inner game starts and builds with eye contact. Interacting with a woman is like playing Simon Says: her emotional state mimics yours. You want to train your body to become comfortable with and proud of your sexual desires. Allow yourself to feel all of the sexual tension. Your dick will get stiff. Maybe you';ll get a tingling across your chest or down your legs. Doesn't matter how it manifests itself for you. Just don't numb anything out if things get uncomfortable. Otherwise, she'll numb out too. For a woman to get sexual, she has to feel sexual. This exercise is the first and most important step.
Your eyes are now a weapon. Identify women you find attractive, lock eyes, and shoot your message across to her.
-The Dicknotist
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