Monday, March 31, 2008

Make Her Cum Back For More

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Time to switch things up! You can't have a properly dicknotized woman without solid sexual skills. The better you are in the bedroom, the more power you'll have in the relationship. Outside of porn, most people learn about sex through trial-and-error. For myself, I went to a religious school, which at least taught me about condom use, but nothing about how to work your hips in a way that'll make a chick slap somebody.


Lord knows you can't rely on the mainstream media for good information. They still keep promoting all hosts of crazed myths like it's normal for women to orgasm during intercourse 30% of the time. Of course that's normal in a sex-phobic culture like America. This country is petrified of teaching people how to have good sex. Most of the discussion focuses on whether or not to promote condom use when too often during the sexual act, people are too inebriated to care. How about we get people to be comfortable with sex so that they don't have to get hideously smashed to act on their desires?


If I were the Surgeon General, I'd toss out that crap on abstinence and have mandatory sex and blow job courses for all women aged 14 and up. In fact, I'd change the name of "blow job." If you label it a job, what woman would want to do it? From now on, we'll call them "blow sales." No woman can resist a bargain. ;) The boys aren't off the hook, either. Starting freshman year, they'd receive comprehensive sexual and PUA education.


I am certain that there's only one reason women aren't even more promiscuous than they already are: they're having shitty sex with insecure men. If more women were having awesome, knuckle-cracking sex, they would be giving it up in droves. A woman who still holds out on sex just doesn't know what good sex is. A series of orgasms is the most potent of chick crack.


So, here's your first sex tip. The following is a description of the Coital Alignment Technique, a modified version of missionary that's designed to give her more coital stimulation during sex. This is just a tool to add to your sexual repertoire and certainly not a substitute for things you do already that work well for you. However, if you have one of those frigid girls who have a hard time cumming during intercourse, this position is incredibly effective. What I personally like about it is it requires the both of you to work in harmony it naturally places you in a position to direct her what to do and pump up the compliance. If you thought compliance was devastating before sex, wait till you see what happens when you do it during sex. Hmmm...sounds like a future blog post. ;)


There are many sites that describe CAT, but this one is the most detailed:




It is estimated that just 30% of women regularly experience an orgasm as the result of sexual intercourse. What that statistic means is that the woman who doesn't have male partner who is willing to stick around in Dixie for as long as it takes usually goes unsatisfied. There is hope, however. And the extra added benefit is that this particular technique also is as close as you can get to experiencing simultaneous orgasms as well. The technical name for this miraculous cure for the orgasm blues is coital alignment technique, but you can call it CAT.


Achieving magnificent coital and simultaneous orgasms through CAT is all position and movement. First to the positioning, which is good old-fashioned missionary in style. The female lies down on her back and the man lies on atop her with the pelvic area slightly over the female's. When the penis enters the vagina, it should press up against soft mound at the top of the vagina. The woman should then swathe her legs around he partner's thighs, bending at no more than a 45-degree angle, with her ankles coming to a rest over the man's calves. The man should take care not to support his weight with his hands or elbows, but rest fully atop the woman's body. Depending on the size we're talking about, this could potentially result in a fair amount of discomfort on the female's part, but try to stick with it as long as you can before giving up.

Now for the movement. Although your sex life may reach the ultimate heights of orgasmic pleasure as a result of wild and wicked whipping around and an almost Twister-like pretzeling of body parts, the key to CAT orgasms is limited movement. The only bodily movements you need to concern yourself with during CAT sex is the movement of the pelvic area. Actually, once you manage to get yourself into the positioning required for CAT sex, you will discover that typical kind of back and forth movement you usually experience are practically impossible. It is the male whose job it is to set the rhythm of sex during the coital alignment technique. In CAT, the female's movement is just as important as the male's, unlike in tradition missionary sexuality.

Here's how it is done: The woman moves her pelvis upward with enough force to push the male backward. During this movement, the male's job is to ensure that he sustains counterpressure against the woman's pelvis, specifically the clitoris. Next the woman forces her pelvis downward and the man responds by also pushing downward. Now it becomes the woman's job to maintain counterpressure against the man's penis. As the woman's pelvis moves down and backward, the shaft of the man's penis needs to rock forward so that is eases almost out of the vagina, while making sure it does not actually do so.

The trick to the CAT sexual technique is that the penis and clitoris remain inexorably bound together as a result of pressure and counterpressure in a way that can't be done through typical sexual intercourse that focuses on the sliding of the penis all the way in and only partly out of the vaginal canal. During CAT, the sensation is more akin to a long, torrid kiss taking place between clitoris and penis rather than the image of a piston pumping back and forth. An even more apt image might be to compare CAT to how a level works. In addition, the thrusting of the pelvis creates a vibratory effect that many women will instantly recognize.

Now for the scientific news. Research conducted into CAT sex reveals that nearly every woman reports experiencing an orgasm that is significantly more intense than normal. Well over half also report that their libido increased and they wanted to increase their weekly dosage of intercourse. A majority of men said they prefer to have sex in this position over any other.

Monday, March 24, 2008

Testing Via Text

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Ugh! The shit test. Fast Seduction.com describes the term as "When a chick does or says something which is meant to judge the reaction or response from a male, whether the test is done consciously or unconsciously."

Shit tests are real and if your inner game is solid enough, you'll pass them unconsciously. Women have to test to see if they can trust you. Any man can pretend to be confident and sexually powerful, but the fakers can fool others for so long. Because of various biological and evolutionary reasons I won't rehash here, women tend to be choosier in their mates and will periodically test to see if you're the man you make yourself out to be. After all, if you can't handle a woman, how will you handle an attacker or the various crises that are guaranteed in life? The good news is the more a woman trusts you, the crazier and more ravenous she'll become in the bedroom, making dicknotism inevitable.

I see shit tests differently than when I first entered the community. I used to view them as open hostility; a game women created to make the dating process even more miserable for sex-starved AFCs. Nowadays, I see shit tests as the tests men must pass to keep their women from turning into bitches. How do you turn a loving, sex-crazed, submissive woman into a nagging, sexless, controlling, jealous little bitch? Fail her shit tests over and over and over again.

I often like to teach by example. Here's the actual script of a text message conversation I had earlier tonight with one of my current girls, though there are some changes only to protect her anonymity:

The Dicknotist: When are you off from work this week?

HB: Saturday

The Dicknotist: Well, you should stop by so I can give you the proper send-off before your trip. [I know...everyone's vacationing these days!]

HB: I'll let you know [Cue music: Dun, dun, duuuun! Shit test!]

The Dicknotist: Oh, you have plans? Well, that's fine. We can meet up next week when you get back. [Example of microcalibration: she showed me disinterest, so I showed her disinterest. Pretty straightforward.]

HB: I don't have plans. Just being noncommittal, which is hard cause I'm so into you. [IOI, but she's also holding back cause she's afraid of her strong feelings for me. Women resist dicknotism...they know how devastating it could be when they get addicted to the wrong guy].

The Dicknotist: Baby, I don't do "I'll let you know." My time's very limited & I budget it carefully to make time for you. But just because I'm into you too doesn't mean that I'm gonna let you take me for granted. If you're not sure, I'm not leaving that night open. [For all you guys who wonder how you can show interest without being needy, here's a real life example. I acknowledge her IOI by giving her a genuine one back. I'm not bullshitting; I'm really into her. At the same time, I'm not going to sacrifice my self-respect because I have feelings for her. I'm strong enough internally to transcend those feelings and stand up for myself...and that deepens trust].

HB: I don't take you for granted. I appreciate everything about you! I will be there cause you want me to be and I love when you tell me was to do. Thank you for being the boss. [Even I wasn't expecting that response!]

The Dicknotist: You're very welcome, baby.

HB: Are you gonna spank me for being bad?

The Dicknotist: You're not getting off that easy!

From here, things got really sexual really fast and posting the rest would just make this page unsafe for work. What I find interesting is how quickly things turned sexual once I owned my desire for her without allowing her to disrespect me. Because I passed her "shit test," she turned right back into the doting, submissive woman panting for my cock - right where I want her.

-The Dicknotist

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Common Sense Pickup

Ok, this post goes under the common sense category. The other night, I took one of my girlfriends to my favorite lounge in Boston. The atmosphere is the perfect Day2 hotspot: quiet, dark, romantic, sultry, and comfortable. The place also served as a two year pick-up training ground for me. As I looked around at the various tables and chairs, I had fond memories of all my Day2 closes, funny field reports, and some memorable gaffes.

Somehow my gf and I got into the topic of pick-up and our conversation brought back some old, common sense concepts that I forgot. (Clearly, she knows about my PUA ways. Her response when I told her: “That’s so awesome. I have so much respect for guys who try to better themselves like that”).

GF: You like hotel bars, eh? Why these shee-shee places?

The Dicknotist: Well, there’s less work. If a girl’s vacationing here or staying in a room upstairs, it’s one less step. All you have to do is catch what she’s wearing.

GF: Oh, if she dresses all slutty?

The Dicknotist: Maybe. I go more by how they’re acting. Are they in a group huddled together and closed off, or are they opened, exposed, and barely talking to each other? At last call, are they looking to leave or are they meandering around? Every so often, do they turn and scope out the room? Are they standing in a brightly lit area of the room to stand out more? Like, look at those girls over there. I’d try them.

GF: Why? They don’t stand out to me.

The Dicknotist: Look closely. What’s missing from this picture?

GF: *shrugs*

The Dicknotist: It’s 35 degrees outside and they’re not wearing any jackets. They’re just wearing some bangin dresses. They’re probably guests at this hotel, vacationing from Lord knows where…and girls on vacation act like it’s Halloween. It’s almost as if they dress up all slutty to give themselves permission to suck my cock.

GF: Oh, well I don’t need to dress up to do that. I don’t need to wear anything…

Ok, gotta cut off the convo. right there. :)

-The Dicknotist

Friday, March 14, 2008

There Is No Friend Zone!

Another day, another e-mail. This one comes from Andy who brings up a common myth I’d like to dispel.

Gday Dicknotist!

Have been an avid reader of your blog for a while now. I believe we share the same beliefs (regarding natural game) and are on the same path in regards to seduction, the only difference being you are miles ahead of me!

I particularly relate to what you said in a recent post - “After I got introduced to the community, I was a weird chode who got laid once in a blue moon, but learned all these dysfunctional behaviors…” - I guess that’s me in a nutshell!

Discounting the obvious approach rejections and number flakes I had yet to be properly rejected by a girl (post AFC life) until fairly recently. Naturally this shook me up a bit and made me look into what I had done wrong. With the help of a trustworthy female spy I found out something interesting - a scenario I was totally unprepared for. Thought you might be interested in hearing what happened and to ask your priceless advice.

The girl had just turned 19 (I’m 24) and it was clear from the start she was very inexperienced with boys (girls school, protective greek-australian family). We both work at a call centre, and the first time we sat beside each other we shared a fun lively conversation (between calls). I feel I’ve gotten quite good at initial rapport generation so it all got off to a perfect start. In that first week she’d give very encouraging signs such as seek out my eye contact, wave and smile when I’d leave, request to sit next to me (thankfully most guys there are stupid boring chodes with bad convo skills), and wait for me to walk to our cars together. I added her on Facebook and we had some great flowing conversations over a stretch of time.

Normally I’d go in for the kill quicker but seeing as I worked with this girl, and she was always so innocent I was happy to build up familiarity and friendship over the next couple of months (plus I was still dating another).

Just before christmas I asked her to come to dancing class with me (something we’d talked about), and she was up for it. Problem was the class had broken up for the year so I just improvised and we went to dinner and a bar from chocolate pizza. Everything about the date was perfect EXCEPT there was no sexual vibe…she seemed almost virginal and I struggled trying to overcome that hurdle.

Second date, we ended up attending the dancing class…LOTS of positive kino here and she did enjoy herself hugely. But after getting some ice cream, her vibe shifted full circle….she seemed awkward, uncomfortable, disinterested, avoided eye contact, and kept a certain distance that prevented me from making that first kiss. I was bemused! The date fizzled, and feeling that I shouldn’t have to chase or pursue any further to seal the deal, we parted ways without so much as a hug.

Unsurprisingly she flaked after this, and the poor girl was too scared to face me at work in the weeks after.

The female friend got the full story out of me, asserted that the other girl was a bitch for flaking (lying about being busy) and insisted she find out more details.

So here’s the revelation….BEFORE she met me, she had built up an extreme schoolgirl crush for one of the supervisors at work. In her words she was “MADLY in love” despite rarely speaking to him. The guy is average looks but has long rocker hair, rocker clothes and that whole cool calm muso vibe about him. I can respect his ability to pull with this image.
The girl had been so obsessed that she clammed up around him (showing her inexperience with men).

So when I came along, I was able to break her out of her shell with meaningful convo (she’s initially very quiet with everyone), but because the crush was already established she wasn’t paying attention to what I could offer her. I was subconsciously friend zoned from the start (something i remember doing once as an AFC with a mega crush on a girl, all others seemed invisible). She also told my female friend that she never liked me “in that way”

So my question is how do you combat this phenomenon?! Young girls fresh out of a school are a different breed, with different and less than logical pre-conceived ideas about love and dating. Especially the protected and “unsullied” ones :p I obviously had no idea about the crush…
Ramping up from easy-going conversationalist to display of sexual intent is definitely my flaw, but did I need to generate stronger animal attraction right from the word go (even in the inappropriate environment of the workplace)? Have you been able to identify and kill the crushes of teen girls?

Interested to hear your thoughts and happy fucking!

Andy

Andy,

As Britney Spears would say, she’s “not that innocent.” At 19, she’s spent the past nine years of her life dreaming on being penetrated by a powerful male. Don’t deny her what she wants!

1) How do you avoid the “friend zone?” I’ll let you in on a little secret: there is no friend zone! The friend zone is an illusion. Some chode back in the day made it up to explain what happens when he tries to seduce a woman without asserting his sexuality, which is like trying to fly without an airplane.

You reap what you sow. If you spend months “[building] up familiarity and friendship,” how can you be surprised that you’d end up with a friendship? If you want a sexual relationship, get comfortable with getting sexual as early as possible. You should have laid her that first week when she was “[giving] very encouraging signs such as [seeking] out [your] eye contact, [waving] and [smiling] when [you’d] leave, [requesting] to sit next to [you]…and [waiting] for [you] to walk to [your] cars together.” A window of opportunity opened up and you failed to walk through it. If you ask her months later, of course she’ll say she always saw you as a friend. For a woman, what she feels is how it is. She reasons that she’s always seen you as a friend because that’s all she ever felt from you: a friendship. The other guy succeeded where you failed because he made her feel sexual, not even by what he did, but simply by who he was.

2) How do you seduce a sexually inexperienced girl? Did you read my last LR? The first girl clearly falls into this category and it’s a real life example of how to handle them. You can lay them in two ways. You can build up comfort so that she feels comfortable enough to act on her sexual desires. If you recall, I foolishly tried that and it got me nowhere. From past experience, it’ll work after about 7 hours or so, but boy is that a long time. Practitioners of this method even come up with strange concepts like “venue-changing” to trick the girl into thinking they’ve spent more time together and been on more dates than they actually have. Why? Building true trust takes time, but why do it artificially when you can do it after sex, when she’s the most emotionally open and vulnerable?

Compliance, on the other hand, builds trust rapidly, naturally, and consistently. Think about it: when you do things for others, you naturally trust them more. At the bare minimum, you trust that they won’t take advantage of your generosity. If you’re doing them a favor, you must like them and of course, you are more likely to trust people you like. Notice in my lay report how I had her drive me to my car and then had her drive us back to her place. I had her travel farther than me for our Day2. For our Day3, I had her cook us a dinner and buy us a movie to watch (which I later use to seduce a girl the next night). What does that do psychologically? She is an active participant in the seduction. She has a vested interest in the seduction succeeding, which is exactly why compliance kills LMR. In the end, I laid everything on the line and was willing to walk away from her, except she found it virtually impossible to let me go because she put so much work into the whole affair. As we all know, she didn’t and has since been emailing me from her vacation, letting me know how much she can’t wait to meet up again and fuck my brains out. So, in short, always keep the girl working, even after the seduction.

3) What should you have done to seduce this girl in particular? For your situation in particular, remember that there are generally two types of girls: one type is highly sexual, reciprocates kino and sexual eye contact, and when alone, acts on her sexual desires. Another type requires more trust before she will act on her sexual desires. Most 19-year-old girls like your girl are generally sexually inexperienced and fit into the latter group. Young guys are highly insecure and hardly trustable, so the girls overcome this requirement by getting plastered enough to allow themselves to be sexual. The easiest way to have laid her was to do what all the other college boys do. Take her and her friends out to a party and get the whole group totally smashed. Then, just offer to take her home (or just take her home). From there, well, you know what to do.

-The Dicknotist

Thursday, March 13, 2008

The Dicknotist Never Sleeps

Ok, young seduction soldier. You’ve just brought home that hottie who caught your eye and you pummel her pussy till it looks like cum drop soup. Sweet work. Now that you’re both spent, you can collapse into each other’s arms and pass out. No, my friends! A true dicknotist never sleeps!

I am happy to see that kino is finally getting the attention it deserves since it’s virtually indispensible to fast pickups. However, as is often the case, community teachings focus more on using kino to get her into bed, and ignore its power in using it post-sex to keep her cumming back for more.

If your retention rate is poor, pay attention. For much of 2007, I had little trouble seducing women quickly, but I struggled to keep them around. Three months into 2008, two girlfriends later, and one more on the way, I am long past this sticking point. How? I realized that the kino never stops. If there’s a kino escalation ladder, imagine that it extends into space with no end in sight.

After sex, a woman’s body is inundated with cuddle chemicals. Oxytocin is released in droves from nipple play and orgasm while endorphins flood her body throughout the sexual act. To release all those chemicals and then roll over and go to sleep without anchoring them to you is a critical mistake.

Why is touch so powerful? What is it about kino that leads a woman from seeing you as a friendly face to someone she’d suck till she’s blue in the face? The following is a short convo I had with one of my current girlfriends this morning after we fucked for a few hours and I’m running my fingers along her back.

GF: Do you touch all women this way?

The Dicknotist: Only the ones I like. [Always be transparent in your desire for her]. I love how sweet you are…making me dinner…making me that super omelet the other day. Makes me feel closer to you. [Reward her good behavior so that she does more of it].

GF: I love the way you touch me. You give me a lot more attention than the other guys. Mmmmm. Yeah!

The Dicknotist: How does my touch make you feel? [A critical question…this is the Dicknotist method of “eliciting values.” I always do it after sex because a dozen orgasms is a potent, natural truth serum.]

GF: Admired. Important. Special. I love the attention. I could have you touch me all day. [Ok, now we know her drug. What she craves more than anything else is attention, which is hardly surprising since she’s a woman. If she gets out of line, I’ll squash the drama by taking her drug away…in this case, being more “busy.” Like a heroin addict, she’ll do anything to get my attention back].

Interestingly, by doing this stuff unconsciously and naturally, I preempt potentially disastrous situations, such as her asking, “are you sleeping with anyone else right now?” Yep, she dropped that bomb right after this conversation and admittedly, I was caught off-guard, but I’m solid in my values and remained truthful. Nothing kills my inner game like the guilt I feel after lying to a woman. I said, “not currently” (because my other girlfriend is vacationing on another continent. I made no mention of an upcoming Day2 with another women though). After my response, I ran my finger along her hair and across her warm cheek as I told her, “but you’re special to me. I love the time I…”

GF: Oh, I know! You’re good to me.

Here’s the interesting part. Because I already expressed how special she is to me through my affection and attention (kino), I didn’t have to add in that last part. It’s redundant and much less powerful than all the caressing I did previously. In fact, I’m glad she stopped me. The more you speak, the greater the chance of putting your foot in your mouth. If possible, pipe down and always communicate with your actions.

The female body is a work of art; treat it as such. Don’t just bang and run. Take you time after sex to touch, caress, and massage every inch of her body. You will differentiate yourself from the typical lazy, sexually-inept guy she fucks when she’s plastered and anchor all those cuddle chemicals even more solidly to you. Keep the kino going after sex and you will be amazed how rapidly and powerfully you’ll hook her. That’s how I’m able to fuck other chicks and yet chuckle to myself as I hear my girlfriend tell me her fuck buddies are upset with her because she’s no longer fucking them. “I just don’t want to sleep with anyone else. I just want you.” As 50 Cent would say, “fuck them other niggas!” :)

-The Dicknotist

P.S. I get emails from guys asking if there are any songs I’d suggest to set the mood. My favorite seduction song these days is “Apologize” (remix) by a band called One Republic. The tune is getting much radio play, so I’m sure many of you are familiar with it. It’s on Timbaland’s album, “Timbaland Presents Shock Value.” The melody is actually quite beautiful and it gets a woman as wet as anything R. Kelly’s put out.

Saturday, March 08, 2008

Female Sex Blogs: A Documentary

Regular readers of this blog will recall a previous post I wrote on Zoe Margolis (”Abby Lee”), author of one of my favorite female sex blogs. I am delighted to learn that she is prominently featured in the documentary video above. Also given airtime is another Brit, London call girl Belle Du Jour. Why a British woman has a French moniker is beyond me, but the documentary is well worth watching. The 48 minute program blows away the tired, old, myth that women dislike sex. On the contrary, given the right guy, women are sexually insatiable. The program also takes to task the stereotype that all women get emotionally attached from sex. In reality, many do but a sizable percentage do not.

Women are getting more comfortable in expressing their desires, even on national television. I hope more men are paying attention.

-The Dicknotist

Sunday, March 02, 2008

Double Lay Report

It’s never felt so good to feel so sore. :)Can I discuss my recent LRs and answer one of your questions? Let’s see…

Dicknotist,

I really enjoy your blog. It is a solid resource consolidating a ton of great knowledge regarding natural game. I have been drawn to the natural style and have enjoyed reading your historical posts and seeing significant progression; obviously you are applying learned knowledge correctly.

I have been a student of seduction for about a year, but haven’t gotten into it nearly as much as others. I kinda graze and pick up ideas here and there, never wholly shifting my paradigm to apply the techniques of MM / RSD / etc. It feels unauthentic. I am very social, have a ton a friends, a decent amount of girl*friends*, and I am an overall attractive guy. I think I am just missing opportunities without realizing it, or show my cards too quickly to girls I am significantly interested in. I have no approach anxiety and getting numbers isn’t too hard. So the social part isn’t my problem, it is how I am applying my social skills.

I am a fan of Vin DiCarlo’s teachings and have tried to implement them with moderate success. I read your first review of his bootcamp from last year and, in retrospect, was it worth it? It seems like a lot of the knowledge his team teaches is soft, and is difficult to apply without having someone there to literally show you. Could you have gotten to the level where you are now as quickly if you just tried to work on yourself, by yourself? Is worth it 3 months, 6 months, a year later? Or is it more short term success?

I appreciate any deeper insight you can give. Awesome blog, and I appreciate it.

Thanks,

Dan

Dan,

If you’ve been reading my site, you can guess my answer: assert the cock! It’s virtually impossible to have a huge social circle and not have at least some of your female friends wanting to fuck you. You are likely suppressing your sexual edge. I’ve discussed this concept before and won’t rehash it here, but rather, I’ll illustrate what I mean with my back-to-back lays from last week-end.

The first lay is from last Friday, when I closed a girl on the second date. Yes, I know. I haven’t gone past the first date mark in quite some time, but I got LMR for the first time in 15 months. On the first date, I did the usual: spent about an hour at a swanky lounge getting to know her while implementing kino escalation and sexual eye contact to get her aroused. I also brought along a random movie I grabbed out of my DVD collection and had her drive us back to her place. As I entered her sweet apartment, my dick is further aroused by the sight of her drunk roommates. I lounge on the couch and enjoy some appetizers from the kitchen, when she grabs the DVD player in the living room and takes it to her bedroom. Sweet. I love it when the girl helps me out.

I did the typical escalation from the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder, but she stops me as the panties are about to come off, explaining that she’s sexually inexperienced and has “never fallen this hard for a guy before.” Flattering, but I prefer to express my gratitude with a vaginal donation. Bummer. I remember on my drive home thinking to myself, “how in the world did I not get laid tonight…in that scenario…in that situation?! Why didn’t I fuck one of her roommates?”

On the Day3, I meet her at her place where she cooks me an incredible dinner. I never knew I’d get horny from the mere taste of chicken, but she’s talented! Again, we go to her room and lay on her bed, but I try a different strategy. We talk and I have her open up about her life, her sexual insecurities, and a host of other topics I don’t remember. I usually do this post-sex, but some girls need a little bit more trust before they will act on their sexual desires. We makeout and I escalate again, though more slowly and lovingly, and while the panties come off, but she doesn’t want me to stick it in. That’s what I get for wasting my time with “comfort game.”

I decide to be more direct and ask her what she is afraid will happen if we sleep together. She gives an odd response: she’s heard endless stories of her friends being played and abused by guys and she’s afraid I’ll be like one of them. In other words, she’s concerned that I’d just fuck her that night and never call her again. Then I do something I couldn’t have done even three weeks ago. I know that trying to convince her that I’m not like that will only reinforce her fear and getting on the defensive will only hurt me. I don’t remember my exact words and I certainly use a great deal of finesse and sensitive phrasing, but I essentially say that if we have sex, I might not call or ever speak to her again. However, if she continues to hold back not because she doesn’t want me but out of sheer fear, then it’s guaranteed that I’ll never call or talk to her again. Oh, it’s a gusty move, but I’m serious and I own my conviction. When you challenge people to face their fear and do what makes them happy, they will often live up to your expectations to please you (especially women). A while later, I escalate again and the LMR is gone. She was soooo wet. God damn! Where’s a towel when you need one?!

The second LR was the next night when I hit the bars with my usual wing. The key to this lay was just capitalizing on windows of opportunity. I wasn’t intending to do anything. I wanted to find a spot to sit and reminisce of the previous night’s adventures. Unfortunately, all the tables were taken, but one girl got up to use the restroom and I sat on her seat to rest my legs. I chatted up the other woman at the table just to be social. The chick at the table then introduced me to her friend with no provocation and I decided to do some light gaming for shits and giggles (and to keep her chair). I spent most of the time chatting with my wing and ignoring them when out of the blue, I notice that they keep looking at me. Oh, yes, I was got the same night pull vibe. I ramp up the kino escalation and deflect all her interview questions. After a while, I pull her in and tell her friend that I needed to chat with her for a few minutes. The friend says something that really stuck out: “Oh that’s cool. Take all the time in the world.” Hmmm…practically handing the friend over and not cock blocking me at all? My Dicknotism sense tells me my target is looking for cock and her friend is helping her along. God bless America! When she starts grinding into my crotch over Britney Spears’ “Gimmie More,” I knew it was time to get out of there. I talked up a new movie I bought. Technically, I didn’t buy it. The girl I fucked the night before bought it for me. Oh, the irony! So, I invite her to my place to watch and she readily agrees. She says good-bye to her friend who leaves in her own car and we go out and hail a cab. Of course, I ramp up compliance all the way to the lay and let her pay the cab fare. We make it to my place, put the movie in, turn to her, and put my dick in.

So, Dan, I ask you: how were these lays possible? I lead. I lead with certainty and with my cock. At no time did I waver from my intense desire to give them incredible sexual pleasure. I asserted my sexual side comfortably and confidently. When a girl is into a guy and he believes in himself with conviction, she will capitulate. There is something about a man who owns his desires that is undeniable and trustable. If you challenge her to be her best, she will do everything in her power to surrender herself to you. In the second lay, when you have a general sexual state, other horny chicks will pick up on it and become horny themselves. Again, if you own it, she (and even her friends) will surrender.

As for Vin DiCarlo, I credit him for taking my game to unforeseen heights. Yes, his bootcamp is worth every penny and so is Dating Diablo and Sexual Selection Switch. With those three products, you truly don’t need anything else. I still review his stuff on a monthly basis and always find myself learning something new or in a deeper way.

I disagree that his teachings are “soft” and “difficult to apply.” So many little things he teaches have transformed my game, such as not kissing a girl till you’re in isolation and when you do, taking it all the way to sex. That concept along with compliance led me through a 15 month streak of no LMR. Do you know how freeing it is to focus on sex rather than the “first kiss” when you’re on a date? Sexual tension is so much easier and things progress much quicker. You don’t need to worry about whether or not she’s ready to be kissed. If she allows you into her bedroom, she’s damn ready to be kissed (and much more)! That’s what separates Vin DiCarlo from the competition. Other gurus will dream up with techniques to overcome common obstacles; Vin teaches you a new mindset that prevents those obstacles from coming in the first place.

Now, your last question: could I have gotten to the level where I am now as quickly if I just worked on myself, by myself? I honestly don’t think so. Before the community, I was a nerdy chode who couldn’t pick up a girl to save my life. After I got introduced to the community, I was a weird chode who got laid once in a blue moon, but learned all these dysfunctional behaviors that kept me from hanging onto any of the women I seduced. Then, there was Vin’s bootcamp, which gave me the tools to become a real pickup artist.

I took DiClassified Drills almost a year ago. I can easily say that I’m even more happy today that I took his bootcamp because the payoff just keeps “cumming.” (Pun intended). So many gurus out there promise the world, but Vin delivers. Of course, I also have to credit AMP on teaching me how to connect with women rapidly and on a deep emotional level. Without AMP, my love life would consist of a string of endless hook-ups, which is exciting at first, but unfulfilling in the long run. Despite the ridiculous amount of money I spent in 2007, I have no regrets.

-The Dicknotist