Social Entropy

The hilarious video above illustrates how people tend to look to others on how to behave and act. Anytime you go into a bar or any public gathering, you'll see the same curious phenomenon.

People conform to avoid anxiety and promote order. If everyone moves in unison and follows the usual societal script, people will be unconscious of what's going on and will follow orders without question. Only the person who acts out of sync with the rest of the group notices what's going on and looks on curiously. Back a few years ago, I got a Razr cell phone when they first came out and before they were popular. Since I rarely watch television, I didn't know about them till I saw them in the store. Within months, everyone had one, probably because the commercials they saw on TV and to convey status.

The more individuality in society, the more disorder. In the above video, imagine with a few people turn confidently in opposite direction of the group. I imagine almost everyone else will follow...but not at first. More often, only one or two people turn around, causing the group much confusion. People start edging round like the first guy in the video, unsure whether they should follow this apparently confident, elevator rider or stick with the pack. Eventually, people end up facing in all sorts of random directions until finally, with an almost audible sigh of relief, the doors open and the tension is released.

What does this have to do with pick-up? When you become confident, you can expect to influence and effect people in rather surprising ways. Some people will be anxious over your confidence and probably knock you. Others will be weak-willed and follow. Either way, when you open a set, there may be a few moments of confusion if you come in with a strong frame. You may see this is you open a set of girls and they act confused or stunned for a moment. That's why you should train your focus on just being on the girl. Rather than letting the environment rattle you, give everyone else time to adjust. If you're confident, they will. As for the anxious folks, leave them to their "benzoes."

-The D

The Older We Are, The Happier We Get...

Well, for men at least.

Once upon a time, I thought there was something wrong with me. For much of my early twenties, I was unfulfilled, miserable, and surely depressed. Well, a new study actually proves that for men, that reality is the norm! Women tend to be happier than men in their 20s whereas by middle-age, men are the happier sex.

What are some of the reasons? Well, I imagine that for a woman, her status is highest in her 20s when generally, she is at her peak of physical attractiveness. For men, we tend to be broke in our youth and finally start making some real dough much later in life. Of course, much of our status (according to societal brainwashers) is derived from our wealth...or lack thereof. The researchers point to another possibility I didn't consider. Read below and check out the portion in bold.

The researchers claim that women start their adult lives happier than men, but from the age of 48 onwards are more glum.

Anke Plagnol, a sociologist at the University of Cambridge, and Richard Easterlin, an economist at the University of Southern California, compared survey responses from two separate data sets ??? one containing information on aspirations and attainments, and the other on satisfaction and happiness.

They concluded that the mid-life changeover in happiness levels comes down to unfulfilled desires.

Apparently, women are happy with their lot earlier in their lives, whereas men have bigger financial goals and tend to be unfulfilled during their 20s, both financially and in their family lives, which makes them miserable.

But by middle age, men have fulfilled their financial and family life goals and have cheered up, whereas women are more likely to be unfulfilled and unhappy.

The authors think a major factor underlying this is the shift in the proportion of men and women in relationships: men are more likely to be single in their 20s, and women are more likely to be alone in middle age.

They admit that this rests on the assumption that being married actually makes people happy, but they point out that if marriage is something you really want (and they found that 90% of both genders did), then being single might get you down.

There's also the point that people in relationships are likely to be better off financially.

Of course, it's quite possible that family life just suits men better than women, who often get the bulk of the childcare responsibility and often have to somehow fit in a job as well.

It is pretty amusing that, despite the fact that the research found men to have at least as much money, if not more, than women throughout their lives, they still had lower financial satisfaction. There's no pleasing some people!

These findings tie in with previous reports that, despite having more, recent generations are less satisfied with their lot than previous, poorer generations.

So perhaps the moral of this story is set your sights low and you won't be disappointed.

So, what can we derive from this? Well, women in their 20s are happier than men in their 20s but by the age of 40, men are happier...especially if they're banging a woman in her 20s. ;)

-The D

R.I.P. Bernie Mack

Geez. First George Carlin and now Bernie Mack. 2008 is shaping up to be an awful year for comedy.

Enjoy the clip above. It's a classic.

-The D

Make Her Walk It Out

I came across an interesting study that proved something I always knew intuitively: a well-fucked woman tends to walk in a sexier, more feminine manner. I can tell how well a woman's getting laid by her walk and apparently, a group of Belgian researchers can too. They wanted to determine whether a woman experienced vaginal orgasms just by observing everyday body movement: walking.

Looking at a group of healthy Belgian women, half of whom have vaginal orgasms and half who do not, these trained "sexologists" discovered that they could pick out the vaginal orgasmic women 81% of the time, an impressive number. Interestingly, they could not, however, pick out women who had clitoral orgasms.

Exploratory analyses suggest that greater pelvic and vertebral rotation and stride length might be characteristic of the gait of women who have experienced vaginal orgasm (r = 0.51, P < 0.05).

In English, that means that they were apparently looking for greater hip movement and walking stride. Reading their conclusions was just funny. They use all this jargon to explain the obvious:

The discerning observer may infer women’s experience of vaginal orgasm from a gait that comprises fluidity, energy, sensuality, freedom, and absence of both flaccid and locked muscles. Results are discussed with regard to previous research on gait, the effect of the musculature on sexual function, the special nature of vaginal orgasm, and implications for sexual therapy.

For the full study, here's the citation:

Nicholas A., Brody S., de Sutter P., de Carufel F. (2008). A Woman’s History of Vaginal Orgasm is Discernible from Her Walk. J Sex Med.

-The D