The AMP Boston Red Pill Weekend has come and gone. Bringing everyone together was a Herculean effort that spanned the States. Continual contact with AMP organizers in San Francisco, members of the Lairs of Boston, Rhode Island, and New York, and readers of this blog all contributed to a resounding success. Participants came as close as Boston itself to as far away as Barcelona! Other previous AMP grads also joined me in keeping things running smoothly as two guys drove several hours just to help out. I was most impressed with the courage of the participants. They truly made themselves vulnerable and worked hard to break down all the barriers separating them from their own greatness. To work with such men was a unique and unforgettable privilege.
Can one man change the world? No. You can never do it alone. Can a team of people change the world? Damn right! That's the only thing that ever does. Indeed, we're just getting started. The next step includes building a community in Boston with people who support each other in living in authenticity. June 8, 2008 marks the birth of AMP Boston and I truly have goosebumps.
Every time I work with The Authentic Man Program, I reach a new stage of awareness and enlightenment that fundamentally changes how I view and interact with the world. The Monday after the event, I sat down and was reminiscing over all the powerful moments of the weekend when I had a new epiphany. Perhaps I may be the next Aristotle as I have figured out the secret of happiness! Normally, I'd charge thousands of dollars for such a feat, but since I want to see more happy people in this world, I'm going to tell you for free. Ready?
The secret of happiness is discomfort. When I think of it, the people, things, and events in life that make me the most happy also make me the most uncomfortable. The same three year program that will result in a job and career that excites me to wake up in the morning also pushed my mental sanity with an almost inhumane workload I had to endure and missed opportunities because of reduced time. The same women who have frustrated, angered, and hurt me have also provided me with incredibly pleasurable experiences I will remember until the day of my death - and I'm not just talking about sex.
I wonder if unhappiness truly exists. Are people really unhappy or are they merely too comfortable? Ever notice how unhappy people tend to sit around complaining about their situation rather than taking action to improve their lives? I find it interesting how the most unhappy period of my life was roughly between 2004 and 2006, when I had few friends, no women in my life outside of my family, and absolutely no social life. I look at my life now and I'm happier today than I've been at any other time in my life. What changed? I took action. I discovered the Boston Lair and made friends with its members. I started approaching and dating women. I took bootcamps that enhanced my social skills and overall self-confidence. Currently, I'm creating a community of people who will support each other in developing and nurturing confidence. No one else can make you happy. Only you can do it and the only way to do it is to find the courage to make yourself uncomfortable.
Nowadays, I don't complain much. I take action. Yesterday, while I was putting my air conditioner back in my window to fight off scorching Boston temperatures, the unit slipped and I found myself holding onto it by the chord. Somehow, I pulled it back up through my window without pulling my back, but the damage was done. The unit was damaged beyond repair. Did I get angry? Sure! I gave it a swift kick and tossed it out the window for good measure. Yeah, sometimes, it feels good to be a gangsta! ;) Yet, I just hopped in my car and bought a similar unit which was smaller but just a powerful, more energy efficient, and actually shockingly cheap. Oh, and I also bantered with this cute blonde who was buying two air conditioners: one for her and one for mommy. Boy did I have fun ripping into her for that one!
If you're comfortable, life is too short to be so miserable. Take action. Go out and make yourself uncomfortable so that you can share that happiness with the women of the world.
-The D
